#1 Relationship Rule, Don't Loose Yourself

Today I had a very interesting conversation with one of my good childhood friends about men. Oh, men! A gift to the female sex? I've decided to stick with the mentality of You Can't Live With Em', Can't Live Without Em'.

I hate to admit it but each of us are equally guilty of losing ourselves in our relationships, so much, that we've let our own friendship suffer! Something that is very, very unnecessary.

I wanted to point out that this should be avoided at all costs. It's easy getting lost in love...butterflies in your stomach...long chats about dreams and life aspirations with a glass of Malbec in hand. Love can be wonderful but can also sweep you of your feet and make you fall flat on your face.

My friend, lets call her Lucy, has failed many classes due to her relationship, I mean to this day I don't even know the exact number. She has put off her studies to cry over a guy. And him? Well he is doing just lovely in his classes and will most likely graduate on time. I am guilty of the same and believe me I am ashamed at what I've missed out on, whether it be a school function or weekend with family.

She's confessed that most of her time is spent waiting for him to get out of class. I say, go to the gym! Go study! Go grab a latte! I'm guilty of building my life around a man, a first love, but have realized that loving yourself is so much more important. I remember how super excited to see him I was when we first started dating-you know, those first months are magical-and whenever he would invite me to a dinner or special event I wouldn't dare turn it down. Not even to finish an English paper. Due the nest day. So why stay true to yourself? It also sustains the relationship! Its best to keep things fun and exciting and doing that is simple!

Remain fun and exciting. Brag to your guy about the new Zumba class you took at the gym or the silly thing that happened to you while trying to cook that delicious recipe you just had to try out! He will appreciate the fact that his girl has a mind of her own. And you will be getting what you deserve out of life, the best!